Relationships

Relationships

Boyfriends and Girlfriends

https://www.youthline.co.nz/relationships.html#boyfriend
What healthy relationships look like and how to talk to someone you like.

https://www.whatsup.co.nz/teens/dating/
Dating is a normal part of our lives as we discover how to be in a relationship. It’s different for everyone and you might feel you’re not ready to date. Or you may have casually seen other people and now what to explore something longer term.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/relationships/love
Love is when two people feel good about themselves and each other. Knowing the difference between love and control in a relationship is important.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPb_B0pTBoQ
What Teens think about: Healthy Relationships

Break ups

https://www.youthline.co.nz/relationships.html#breakups
How to break-up with someone respectfully and coping with a break-up.

https://thelowdown.co.nz/categories/relationships/loss
Hate not having what you love the most?

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/relationships/break-ups
Breaking up with someone isn’t always easy but there are some common signs that may help you know if and when you should.

https://www.skylight.org.nz/resources/loss-and-grief
The thoughts, feelings and reactions we experience, when we’re faced with change and loss, whatever our age, are known as grief.

https://www.skylight.org.nz/resources/loss-and-grief/relationship-breakdown
If you've just had a relationship break-up and are feeling down, you're not alone. Here you'll find expert tips for helping you find balance again.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-issues/relationships/breakups/
When a relationship comes to an end, it can take a while to get through the hurt and grief that a break up can cause.

Communication, Conflict and Resolution

http://areyouok.org.nz/i-need-help/positive-relationship-quiz/
Whether you are in a long-term or casual relationship, you deserve to be treated well and ensure that you are treating your partner respectfully. Take the quiz to see how healthy your relationship is.

https://www.netsafe.org.nz/online-regret/
Sometimes we do things and say things about other people online that we aren’t proud of, that we regret or that we know deep down isn’t right.

https://www.auntydee.co.nz/tips-and-help/talk
Good communication is key to nurturing healthy relationships with mates, whānau, at school, socially and at work.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-support/healthy-conversations/
Everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes. We all want to feel heard and understood. If you're worried about someone, having a conversation and talking through what’s happening for them is a great way to connect and share the load.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/relationships/unhealthy-relationships
Different behaviours, situations or types of abuse are common in an unhealthy relationship. If you are worried, it is important to seek help.

Friendships

https://www.youthline.co.nz/friendships.html
Dealing with friendship conflict and having hard conversations

https://www.whatsup.co.nz/teens/friendships/
Having friends is important. They help us through the tough times, they cheer us up when we feel down and they are the people we usually trust with our secrets. Some people have many friends and others have a couple of besties or BFFs.

https://thelowdown.co.nz/categories/relationships/friends
Wanting to be part of a group of friends has been hardwired into us since caveman times. Having good friends is important.

https://thelowdown.co.nz/categories/help/support-a-friend
Research shows that people are most likely to turn to close friends or family for support. So you could be that person for your friend. And you don’t have to act differently. Just be yourself.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-support/the-support-system/
Understanding who else is in a young person’s life, what their support system is, and what your own support system is.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-support/keeping-an-eye-out/
It can be hard to know when to worry about young people – what's normal and when to get more support. It’s common to be unsure how and when to step in and help, or even if you should.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-support/taking-action/
There are lots of little things you can do to support a young person going through a tough time.

Peer Pressure

https://www.youthline.co.nz/peer-pressure.html
Saying NO can be one of the biggest challenges. What’s the deal with this two letter word being so hard to say!?

Separation and Divorce

https://www.youthline.co.nz/relationships.html#divorce
Common feelings and how to cope.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-issues/being-part-of-a-family/when-parents-break-up/
Separation and divorce can put a lot of stress on everyone in the family. Often it will raise a lot of questions, and create some upsetting changes that young people need help to understand.

http://www.commonground.org.nz/common-issues/being-part-of-a-family/merging-families/
When families introduce new partners and children into a young person’s life, it can be an unsettling time for everyone.

Sex

https://thelowdown.co.nz/categories/relationships/sex
There’s so much wrapped up in the subject of sex. The highs and lows of relationships, new experiences, your identity, expectations, keeping safe – the list goes on…

https://www.youthline.co.nz/sex.html
Am I ready? Staying safe, STI’s and pregnancy.

https://www.auntydee.co.nz/tips-and-help/lets-talk-about-sex
Sex. It can be complicated.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/
Our clinics provide confidential and non-judgemental sexual and reproductive health care. See below for direct links

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/understand-your-body/about-sex
Sex should be fun and it should feel good so you should only have sex when you feel ready.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/understand-your-body/safer-sex
The four C’s: consent, contraception, condoms and checks can help make sex safer for you and your partner.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/relationships/feeling-the-pressure
Knowing when you are ready to have sex can be hard but there are some questions you can ask yourself that can help. It is your decision when to have sex and not having sex is okay.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/relationships/consent
Consent is when both people say and show ‘yes’ to an activity and sexual activity without consent is illegal.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/relationships/communication
Communication about sex and sexual safety is essential in any relationship. Taking to your partner about safer sex and condom use can be difficult but there are tips that can help.

http://www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/keeping-safe/alcohol-and-drugs
Alcohol and drugs can alter your perceptions, emotions and judgement and may result in you doing things sexually you wouldn’t usually do.

https://www.whatsup.co.nz/teens/pornography/
Make up your own mind.Your friends may think porn is OK and even encourage you to watch it. It’s important not to feel pressured. Make up your own mind whether to watch it or not.

http://sash.co.nz/
Sexual Abuse Support and Healing (SASH) is available to support you and your whanau when affected by sexual abuse

https://www.safetotalk.nz/
A 24/7 sexual harm helpline that is confidential and free to call 0800 044 334

https://www.safetotalk.nz/what-is-sexual-harm/
When someone has a sexual experience they don't want, or are forced into any kind of sexual act by another person, they’ve experienced sexual harm.

http://www.tedxchristchurch.com/jo-robertson
Jo Robertson is the Research and Training Lead for The Light Project, a charitable trust equipping youth, whānau and professionals to navigate the new porn landscape.

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