A Q&A website where two young queer people respond to questions dealing with everything under the sun.
Whether you are recently single or have been for a while, there are lots of good and not so good things about being single!
Boyfriends and Girlfriends
What healthy relationships look like and how to talk to someone you like.
Dating is a normal part of our lives as we discover how to be in a relationship. It’s different for everyone and you might feel you’re not ready to date. Or you may have casually seen other people and now what to explore something longer term.
Love is when two people feel good about themselves and each other. Knowing the difference between love and control in a relationship is important.
What Teens think about: Healthy Relationships
How to break-up with someone respectfully and coping with a break-up.
Hate not having what you love the most?
If you've just had a break-up and are feeling down, you're not alone.
Breaking up with someone isn’t always easy but there are some common signs that may help you know if and when you should.
The thoughts, feelings and reactions we experience, when we’re faced with change and loss, whatever our age, are known as grief.
If you've just had a relationship break-up and are feeling down, you're not alone. Here you'll find expert tips for helping you find balance again.
When a relationship comes to an end, it can take a while to get through the hurt and grief that a break up can cause.
Communication, Conflict and Resolution
Whether you are in a long-term or casual relationship, you deserve to be treated well and ensure that you are treating your partner respectfully. Take the quiz to see how healthy your relationship is.
Sometimes we do things and say things about other people online that we aren’t proud of, that we regret or that we know deep down isn’t right.
Good communication is key to nurturing healthy relationships with mates, whānau, at school, socially and at work.
Everyone needs someone to talk to sometimes. We all want to feel heard and understood. If you're worried about someone, having a conversation and talking through what’s happening for them is a great way to connect and share the load.
Different behaviours, situations or types of abuse are common in an unhealthy relationship. If you are worried, it is important to seek help.
Dealing with friendship conflict and having hard conversations
Having friends is important. They help us through the tough times, they cheer us up when we feel down and they are the people we usually trust with our secrets. Some people have many friends and others have a couple of besties or BFFs.
Wanting to be part of a group of friends has been hardwired into us since caveman times. Having good friends is important.
Research shows that people are most likely to turn to close friends or family for support. So you could be that person for your friend. And you don’t have to act differently. Just be yourself.
Understanding who else is in a young person’s life, what their support system is, and what your own support system is.
It can be hard to know when to worry about young people – what's normal and when to get more support. It’s common to be unsure how and when to step in and help, or even if you should.
There are lots of little things you can do to support a young person going through a tough time.
Separation and Divorce
Common feelings and how to cope.
Separation and divorce can put a lot of stress on everyone in the family. Often it will raise a lot of questions, and create some upsetting changes that young people need help to understand.
When families introduce new partners and children into a young person’s life, it can be an unsettling time for everyone.
There’s so much wrapped up in the subject of sex. The highs and lows of relationships, new experiences, your identity, expectations, keeping safe – the list goes on…
Am I ready? Staying safe, STI’s and pregnancy.
Sex. It can be complicated.
Our clinics provide confidential and non-judgemental sexual and reproductive health care. See below for direct links
Sex should be fun and it should feel good so you should only have sex when you feel ready.
The four C’s: consent, contraception, condoms and checks can help make sex safer for you and your partner.
Knowing when you are ready to have sex can be hard but there are some questions you can ask yourself that can help. It is your decision when to have sex and not having sex is okay.
Consent is when both people say and show ‘yes’ to an activity and sexual activity without consent is illegal.
It is possible to view porn in a healthy way. The challenge then is talking about what healthy porn viewing looks like. Ensuring that young people know the difference between real sex and the sex acts performed by paid actors.
Where do most people get their information about sex these days? That’s right. Online pornography. Its content can be pretty unrealistic, and can include violence against women, unusual sex positions and activities, and degrading interactions.
Communication about sex and sexual safety is essential in any relationship. Taking to your partner about safer sex and condom use can be difficult but there are tips that can help.
Alcohol and drugs can alter your perceptions, emotions and judgement and may result in you doing things sexually you wouldn’t usually do.
Make up your own mind.Your friends may think porn is OK and even encourage you to watch it. It’s important not to feel pressured. Make up your own mind whether to watch it or not.
Sexual Abuse Support and Healing (SASH) is available to support you and your whanau when affected by sexual abuse
A 24/7 sexual harm helpline that is confidential and free to call 0800 044 334
When someone has a sexual experience they don't want, or are forced into any kind of sexual act by another person, they’ve experienced sexual harm.
There are few things more anxiety-inducing than your first time having sex. When is the right time? What is normal? What actually happens? What does the law say about teen sex? Our first episode takes a closer look at the first time.
Jo Robertson is the Research and Training Lead for The Light Project, a charitable trust equipping youth, whānau and professionals to navigate the new porn landscape.
Let’s face it, they know what buttons to push
Family are like branches on a tree – we all grow in different directions, but our roots remain as one.